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Most driven adults spend a lifetime proving they’re “enough.” Discover why that quest can never deliver peace, and how you can flip the script faster than it takes to binge a single Netflix season.

THE MOMENT THE

LIE BROKE ME

My name is Cody Blocker, and before I became an Amazon #1 best-selling author, and a certified emotional-intelligence coach, I was a hungry work-a-holic who slaved away eight days a week at a desk job, answered emails 24/7 and owned two successful businesses. I did everything. I had a big house, nice lawn, beautiful family and my dream job.

Then my body revolted.

One day I stood up from a lunch meeting and something went–wrong.

In a fraction of a second, my life changed. After visiting various specialists and experts in multiple states, my medical condition worsened. I was in so much pain that it blurred my vision. I spent way too much time in rooms that smelled of antiseptic and hummed with fluorescent lights and the beeping of heart monitors,

Seven months later, I found myself sitting on the edge of a hospital bed with my feet and legs going progressively more numb each day. I was scared to lay back in that hospital bed because I wasn’t sure if I was ever going to get out of that bed and walk again.

In that moment I had to trust. I had to give up my need for answers. I had to let go and make my peace. I had to accept the reality of my circumstances. I told God that if I never walked again, I would still trust him. I accepted that I had no control over anything and that if I was going to go through hell, I would gladly go with Him at my side.

When you lose your house, your job, your businesses, your savings, 99% of your friends, your eye-sight, your physical balance and your ability to function all in a matter of months, you tend to gain a different perspective on life.

One night, in a dark hospital room except for the halo of a cheap LED reading lamp, I stared at a blank journal, gripping the pen like it might float away. My mind raced with questions. Why me? Why did this happen? What did I do to deserve this? What could I have done differently to prevent this? What mistake did I make that gave me this punishment? As tears began to flow, I simply gave up my need for answers, realizing I will never know why life can be so hard.

Laying in a hospital bed with tubes and needles sticking out of my skin, I wrote down one single question of three simple words:

“Who am I?”

PERFORMANCE-BASED
IDENTITY SYNDROME

If you’re still with me, odds are

you recognize pieces of yourself in my story.

Maybe you’re the senior project manager who feels like everyone is attacking you at every meeting, you secretly despise your colleagues and constantly think that “if only” your boss knew how smart you were, your career and life would be so much better.

Perhaps you’re the ministry volunteer who signs up for the youth camp, the usher team, the coffee team, the greeter team and the child care team because you can’t say ‘no’ or bear the thought of disappointing people who rely on your strength.

Or you’re the parent orchestrating impossibly color-coded schedules for piano, travel soccer, travel baseball, travel volleyball and AP tutoring, then lying awake at 1:14 a.m., replaying how sharply you snapped when your nine-year-old spilled the juice box in the back seat.

Outwardly, the world applauds. You’re efficient, competent, and resilient. The LinkedIn endorsements pile up, the thank-you emails flow in, and the Christmas letters extol your perfect family photos. Yet privately, you’re haunted by questions no applause can silence: Why can’t I say ‘no’? Why does criticism feel like an assassination? Why can’t I rest without guilt gnawing my insides? The answer is an invisible epidemic I call Performance-Based Identity Syndrome (P.B.I.S.), the cultural virus that convinces us our worth is a wage we earn by crushing goals, pleasing bosses, staying flawless and staying in control.

Left untreated, P.B.I.S. produces four chronic symptoms that sabotage even the strongest among us:

P.B.I.S. is insidious because the world keeps rewarding it, promotion, applause, follower counts, right up until it devours your peace and, sometimes, your heartbeat.

PERFORMANCE-BASED
IDENTITY SYNDROME

If you’re still with me, odds are

you recognize pieces of yourself in my story.

Left untreated, P.B.I.S. produces four chronic symptoms that sabotage even the strongest among us:

P.B.I.S. is insidious because the world keeps rewarding it, promotion, applause, follower counts, right up until it devours your peace and, sometimes, your heartbeat.

THE IDENTITY
PYRAMID

To survive I had to put my thoughts in order. I leaned on critical ideas my mentors told me and I adapted them to my situation. I added, deleted and adjusted concepts until it all finally made sense. I developed an Emotional Intelligence framework rooted in psychology, theology, neuroscience, and hard-won street wisdom from house fires, emergency rooms, boardrooms, meetings, executive retreats and more meetings. I call it The Identity Pyramid, and it reverses the cultural script:

Most programs start at the top; they hand you productivity apps, morning routines, or affirmation scripts trying to help you build something to be grounded to. The Identity Pyramid flips the order by discovering and rebuilding the foundation first. In other words, we fix the operating system before installing new software.

When these three layers sit in proper order, Identity supporting Emotions, which in turn support Performance, life feels internally spacious. Feedback sharpens rather than shatters. Rest becomes a gift, not a sin.

Creativity ignites because the fear of failure no longer stalks every brainstorming session. I detail that process step by step in my new book, The Identity Pyramid: Accepting Your Value in a Performance-Driven World. Readers call it “an emotional rewire” because the model doesn’t just change thoughts; it resets the very operating system through which thoughts, feelings, and actions interact.

PAINTING THE “AFTER”

Picture next Monday. You wake at 6:00 a.m. to the scent of coffee instead of cortisol. The quarterly numbers meeting is at nine, but you’re not mentally rehearsing excuses for potential dips. You know data describes performance, not identity. You kiss your spouse good morning without that tight knot of unfinished tasks crowding affection.

You leave for work ten minutes early and enjoy a slow, quiet drive of self-reflection, not a busy, speeding drag race. No honking, no cutting off. Just patience and awareness and gratitude.

In the meeting, your CEO flags a concern, normally the kind of comment that would trigger a silent tailspin. You breathe, nod, and ask clarifying questions. The critique lands on performance, not your soul. Colleagues read your calm as strength.

That afternoon, you hit the gym because movement feels joyful, not because the scale dictates your morality. At dinner, your teenager confesses a failing grade, bracing for your disappointment. Instead, you lean in, ask how they feel, share a story of your own high-school screw-up, and strategize next steps, no lecture, no withdrawal of affection.

You leave for work ten minutes early and enjoy a slow, quiet drive of self-reflection, not a busy, speeding drag race. No honking, no cutting off. Just patience and awareness and gratitude.

Your kid exhales, shoulders drop, connection grows. You spend the evening reading an insightful book on history instead of doom-scrolling metrics. Lights out by 10:30, mind quiet, heart steady. That’s a normal day when your pyramid stands right-side up.

Extend that peace over months: strategic clarity at work because you’re not firefighting ego crises; spiritual vitality because silence no longer accuses; friendships that thrive on authenticity, not transactional worth. Marriage intimacy grows because vulnerability no longer feels like risk, it feels like home. That’s what thousands are already experiencing through the Identity Pyramid framework.

You gain time, emotional bandwidth, and spiritual oxygen.

That means clearer decisions at work, safer relationships, more connection at home, and a nervous system that finally remembers how calm feels, with tangible returns you’ll notice within the first month.

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If hesitation is whispering, “Maybe I’m the exception,” and you don’t think you need this, the next few lines dismantle those doubts one by one.

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I shoulder the risk because I believe in the message of this book, and I know that when you begin to live right-side up, transformation always follows.

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Right now, you have a choice: continue carrying the weight of proving your worth every day, or choose a better way. Imagine showing up with clarity, calm, and confidence, knowing your value is no longer tied to performance, approval, or perfection.

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This isn’t just a book, it’s a moment. A turning point. A chance to stop living under the pressure to prove yourself and finally begin building a life that reflects the truth about who you are.

But this opportunity won’t always be available. Access to this version of The Identity Pyramid, along with the clarity, structure, and support it offers, may be removed without notice. We’re offering it now because we want to meet people like you at the exact moment they’re ready to stop striving and start living from a place of peace.

So let’s be honest, why now?

Because delaying this decision doesn’t keep you where you are… it pushes you into the cycle you’re already trying to break. Every day you live from a performance-based mindset is another day you reinforce burnout patterns, emotional reactivity, fear of feedback, and self-doubt masked as ambition.

The longer you wait, the harder it becomes to separate your worth from what you do, how much you produce, or how others perceive you. You don’t need more time, you need a system that works.

And once you order the book, you’ll also unlock an exclusive opportunity to go even deeper: a 10-module video course that builds on everything in the book and helps you apply it step-by-step to your real life. This advanced program is only offered to readers immediately after purchase, and it won’t be available anywhere else.

What do you have to lose?

Nothing. There’s no risk in starting, but there’s real cost in staying stuck. The clenched jaw, the strained relationships, the quiet voice in your head that never lets you rest... they don’t just fade with time. They fade with action. And this book is your first, most powerful action step.

If you’re ready to reclaim your confidence, restore clarity, and start living right-side up, this is your moment. But you have to act before it closes.

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Let’s break it down: this book is a mindset change, a practical framework, and a long-term solution to the pressure you've been carrying for years. You’ll walk away with tools you can use daily, in conversations, leadership moments, even in the quiet doubts you rarely voice.

Getting started is simple: click the button, order your copy, and begin the journey to a life where your worth isn’t up for negotiation.

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The real question is: what do you have to lose by staying stuck?

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Remember, this offer won’t be available forever. If you're ready to stop chasing your worth and start living from it, now is the time to take that step.

By acting today, you’ll gain the clarity to separate who you are from what you do, the confidence to face pressure without crumbling, and the tools to build a grounded, unshakable life, personally and professionally.

And with the 30-day, no-questions-asked guarantee, you have absolutely nothing to lose, except the stress, burnout, and insecurity that have been weighing you down for years.

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What If Everything You’ve Been Taught

What If Everything You’ve Been Taught

About Self-Worth Is a Lie?

THE MOMENT THE

THE MOMENT THE

LIE BROKE ME

Then my body revolted.

“Who am I?”

PERFORMANCE-BASED IDENTITY SYNDROME

Left untreated, P.B.I.S. produces four chronic symptoms that sabotage even the strongest among us:

Left untreated, P.B.I.S. produces four chronic symptoms that sabotage even the strongest among us:

PERFORMANCE-BASED IDENTITY SYNDROME

Left untreated, P.B.I.S. produces four chronic symptoms that sabotage even the strongest among us:

Left untreated, P.B.I.S. produces four chronic symptoms that sabotage even the strongest among us:

THE IDENTITY PYRAMID

PAINTING THE “AFTER”

PAINTING THE “AFTER”

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The real question is: what do you have to lose by staying stuck?

Don’t wait for your body, your marriage, or your faith to stage a revolt. Flip the pyramid before gravity does it for you.

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